First, in a study of educational homogamy in marriage in 22 countries, 14 countries showed a strong tendency toward homogamy. Second, the Australian study on 5,000 subjects revealed that men who married educated women are happier than those who partnered with uneducated ones. For the record, I ended up marrying a Japanese woman. However, I had dated a handful of Filipina women back in my single days. I’m also close friends with a lot of guys who have Filipina wives, so this is something I know quite a bit about.
The data also show that marriages in which husbands and wives have the same level of education are becoming less common. In 1960, 78 percent of all unions were between partners with equal educations. You can also make smaller adjustments to where you’re looking in order to find more heterosexual men, especially if you’re using online dating. “As odd as it sounds, the ratio of college grad single men to single women is generally better in the suburbs than it is in city centers,” he said. So if you live in Manhattan, you may want to set your online dating matches to include men from Staten Island and Westchester, a few of the rare places with more college-educated single men than women. I intentionally passed on a 90% scholarship at a private university because I hate the school system in the US so much.
Since most couplesmeet through mutual friends or work, people are simply more likely to cross paths and hook up if they have shared interests and backgrounds, which often means they have shared economic backgrounds as well. “These lopsided numbers might not matter if young, college-educated women become more willing to date — and, eventually, marry — across socioeconomic lines,” Birger explained in the Washington Post. For example, 61% of non-daters younger than 50 say that a major reason they aren’t looking to date is that they have more important priorities, compared with 38% of older non-daters.
As such, it does not paint a complete picture of the dating landscape. These demographics represent the true dating apocalypse, as stacks of social science show how dating and mating behavior is influenced by prevailing sex ratios. When there are plenty of marriageable men, dating culture emphasizes courtship and romance, and men generally must earn more to attract a wife.
In other words, don’t marry ‘down’ and then Lord over him with your greater earning power. Use your income for savings or investments and create a budget that allows you both to live on one income. Because the more you empower your man to be able to take care of his family, the more successful your marriage will be. Not only are men competitive by nature, they prefer to be the main breadwinner—which is just as well since that’s what most women want, too. (In roughly two-thirds of married or cohabiting couples, men earn more than women.) The reason breadwinning is more important to men than it is to women is because men are providers and protectors by nature. Women may feel empowered when they make their own money.
You win the game when you have sex if that all you are looking for. I have no problem getting a number, I have no problem getting a date, I have no problem getting laid. And my sex definitely isn’t the problem, I’m no Johnny Sins, but I’m packing, clean, and pretty decent. I get approached by women at bars and clubs, I get tons of matches on dating apps, I get attention from women of all ages and races . Asian women pay me ZERO attention, but that’s a conversation for another day lol. Additionally, The Journal reported that in the next few years the education gap will widen so that for every one man who earns a college degree, two women will earn one.
For example, a review of the dating literature by Eaton and Rose noted this dichotomy. On one hand, the researchers found support for some individuals adopting a friendship script to their dating lives—using it as a more Go to this modern and open-ended approach to starting a relationship. On the other hand, the research also showed that many individuals were still utilizing more traditional and gendered scripts in their love lives as well.
If you spend any time in North Dakota, which is the big booming oil state these days, you have kids right out of high school, and 98% are men, earning 50, 60, 70 thousand dollars a year as roughnecks. Those kind of high-paying working class jobs are even harder to come by for women. That’s what makes the college wage premium so much bigger for women, because there are fewer job opportunities to earn a decent wage in blue collar jobs. If we had had this conversation in the ’50s or ’60s, the gender ratios would be reversed. Many more men than women were graduating from college, and there was gender bias both in secondary schooling and in college admissions.
For further reading on this topic, I highly suggest reading about the 3 things to keep in mind once you are married and your wive has her green card. It’s based on my personal experiences marrying a Japanese woman and moving her to the US to live with me, but it’s still applicable to anyone in nearly any country. I’m laughing a little bit as I write this, because as any married man will tell you, there will be arguments.
These are more modern societies or cultures, where many of the norms, roles, and scenarios that structure social life are being discarded or overturned. Within these societies, people have more ability to act as an individual and make personal choices. Within relationships, individuals get to explore preferences and fulfill desires that might have been restricted by traditional roles or norms. Nevertheless, without those shared norms and cultural scenarios, everyone also has to negotiate and define each individual relationship with each new partner. As a result, more options also come with less certainty and more work. Younger adults are more likely to see these dating norms as acceptable – sometimes dramatically so.
In conversation, brighter women might easily have an edge in relating to smart men. By all clinical and research accounts (as you’ll soon see), intelligence and intelligent conversation play pretty important roles in mate selection. The OP seems to think he is very successful and a super star. He sounds very condescending to the girls/women he dated and had sex with. Concerning the lack of a “connection,” it’s possible that you’re coming across as too reticent or distant.